Discounts, Doughnuts and Doormats

Hey you. Yeah you. Why you laying there? Did you know that you are worth so much more? Something that absolutely kills me is seeing people being walked all over repeatedly. Letting someone take advantage of their kindness and good nature and heart. But, tough love real talk, there comes a time when you have to stand up and stop taking it. That isn't just your decision, it is your responsibility. I get it. You love them and they will change and they don't mean it and excuse after excuse after excuse. I am not saying never give someone a second chance. By all means, if you believe they can be better, give them a second chance. I am all for them. However, if they hurt you and you take them back...the first time is a mistake. The second time it's a choice. Being a good hearted person is never a bad thing, in fact in the world we are living in, it is a very welcomed change. But sadly, some people look at it as an opportunity to use you for all they can. Help people. Be there for people. Love people. Always do these things, but also know when it is turning into a bad and exhausting cycle of hurt for you. You are worth so much more. Your value is higher than that. You have a high price tag so get off the clearance rack! Don't let anyone undermine you as a person and never let them underestimate what you have to offer. I've been there. I have given so much to people who only continued to drain me. Not just monetarily, but emotionally, physically and mentally. When people know that you will take them back and will always be there no matter what they do to you, then you lose control and slowly your self respect as well. Never let anyone take those things from you. Some people will keep leaving your heart hanging because they know that you will be there when they feel like it is convenient for them to come back. You are not a store. This is not a convenience thing. You don't come with doughnut and soda. By all means, let them go find what they are looking for, but it is not your obligation to hang around while they figure it out. Know your self worth. Seriously. Say it with me, "I am worth more than their actions" And that is the thing, love is an action, not a word. Love is a verb, not a noun. Love is not convenience, it is comfort. Quit laying down and letting people wipe their dirty feet all over you and expect you to just take it. Doormats are for shoes my dear. So get the hell off the floor.